8 am : Was having cup of coffee with Chatpata Akhbar in hand. Yes I would like to give name this to newspaper, coz now a days media is moving towards masala news than development, informative news. U may not agree on this, doesn’t matter. On last page there was a news which makes me write this. From last few weeks across the country many girls rapped by morons. On this social media and other agencies are enough so here I don’t want to elaborate why and how this happens. It’s not my work. Let news channels continue this drama. Yes but want to put strong opinion on one point. When this kind of incident happens, all activists and political parties suddenly start putting across one genuine point (as per them) i.e. girls or women should empowered with self-defence mechanisms and bla...bla... I feel this discussions very stupid. Yes you heard right. It’s utter stupid. Whole world gathered and puck only one way. Isn’t it funny. Why with every incident girls/women have to work upon it. Why can’t boys/men thought to be their limits. In our society it’s very easy to put blame on each other. We talk about gender equality...
Do you think it will come only with talking or giving big lecture. Females knows how to be strong enough and react on certain situations. They will work on self-protection. We are no one to teach them. I feel to cut this kind of unequal attitude, we need to teach boys from their childhood not to see girl from physical angle. See with emotional intelligence.
Don’t say girls to sit properly, say boys not see girls in certain way. Don’t consider small-clothes as inviting men, teach boys to give respect in whatever way she dressed up. Don’t see her as a physical asset, see her as a human being same as like him. Teach him that girls/women can also talk about sex openly, it’s not a sign of sexism. Most importantly teach boys from childhood that they both have equal feeling and regrets. We used to separate them from very early childhood by giving them different toys and not talking with them openly on such topics.
This creates pre notion among boys from teen age and that leads to wrong event. As a mother we don’t feel ok to talk to son about his teenage changes, in this case how they can able to take it both the gender at same platform. During childhood if son is asking about mother’s personal clothes than also if we react like he made a crime by asking this. Sometimes I feel silly. Not giving answers to son/boy on proper age creates wrong impression and curiosity.
With this physiological state when they meet opposite sex person, attracted with her only in physical terms. And this is the beginning of Rape like incident. Be with your son as a friend not as stereotype mother. This helps to create good humanitarian balance. Most importantly before saying negative about any girl/female think what you have pour in your son. Whatever happening with girl/female is a mirror of your thoughtful nourishment.
#Hitakshi
